L and I had our first date on Valentine’s Day of ’09. I won her heart with my unbelievable swagger! Really, the reason I won her over was because I really focused on putting myself in the best position to NOT screw things up. Therefore, I’m going to turn into Cupid for the next few days and give you guys (and girls) some help on your first dates! Starting off with some unconventional date ideas. Nothing too expensive, nothing too awkward.
A couple rules when going on a first date right off the bat that will help you get to the second date.
- Avoid the creep zone – You want to be fun and comfortable, but don’t assume that she is more comfortable than she really is. This will surely put you into the creep zone quickly. There’s no getting out either!
- Eye contact – Very few people have “ugly eyes“, so just assume yours are nice to look at. Show them to her…often … but don’t stare. That’s creepy.
- Remember she’s a chick – Don’t do something you and your boys think are fun. You wouldn’t want to go to the hair dresser or to sit at the Nordstrom makeup counter for 2 hours. Don’t do the equivalent!
- Don’t be a drunk – How much fun is it to decipher slurred speech. Now imagine if you were doing it for someone who was a complete idiot and was slobbering on himself. Not so awesome is it? Show some class. Don’t be a creep.
- Respect the exit strategy – If she says that she may have to leave early, it’s because ehe thinks you might be a creep. She’ll probably say something about her friend being all distraught after some outrageous situation that occurred earlier that day. Respect her fears…then prove her wrong.
Wine tasting – Let her teach you about her world. Yeah we know about worldly beers and the smoothest tequilas, but what about pinot!? I know nothing about it, but learning about it mde me realize I would have found it great to learn about it earlier. It still tastes bad, but so do the
400 600 shots we took in college guys. Man up!
Tennis lesson, bating cages, bowling, or golf range – This is for the athletic type from athletic family. I think that it’s true that most girls are attracted to guys that have similar qualities to their siblings or fathers.
Hike 1, Hike 2! – Only for the adventurous type. Make sure people are around and that she would enjoy it and is prepared to sweat. Don’t be a dummy and take her walking through the woods alone please. You never know, it could end up being the best situation of all time like mine was! (creep alert)
A different kind of rock – Not shopping for diamonds….I’m talking about rock climbing! Indoors, of course. This is not a good one for a blind date, though. Looking up at your dates behind as it is being squeezed by a couple tight straps can be a bad idea. If you know she is a competitor and comfortable with her body , this could be a deal maker! Talk about a test of wills! I almost peed myself climbing for the first time. I held it in thought like a good little boy!
Shopaholics beware – Don’t go shopping for stuff for both of you, that’s not fun…it’s stressful to see her ponder which credit card to use. Plus you never know her financial situation ya know!? Tell her you need a new shirt or jeans or something then ask her for her input. Shows trust, and vulnerability. Gives her a chance to play GF without her knowing it. She will look back afterwards and realize how much fun she had especially if you are cutely awkward or have no fashion sense. (Verified!)
Sittin’ on the dock of the bay (Top Gun reference!) – The water is so subtly calming and engaging that it takes a lot of pressure off of the nerve racking situation at hand. Just make sure she doesn’t get seasick and make sure you know how to row a boat.
Look honey! An open House – Schedule to visit an open house or two one weekend and say you are looking to maybe buy a place. She will be impressed at your maturity and it makes things comically awkward when u refer to her by pet names like honey and sweetheart in front of strangers. Don’t overdo it! Every girl I know LOVES to look at houses…especially big ones they can’t afford.
Blades of Steel! – Take her ice skating, but make sure she isn’t Nancy Kerrigans little sister. You don’t want her to know she can do some physical activity better than you.
Tickets to a game – Now this is tricky so listen up. Don’t take her to a game if she isn’t a fan. don’t buy front row seats if she is a fan. Just mention that you might hae someone that can get tickets, then gauge her response. If she is excited, buy midrange tickets. If not, then squash the idea. Don’t get tickets to an NBA game. They are not exciting and she will most likely just be infatuated with one of the players…leaving you with a bill.
People watching at a college – Sounds weird? You’d be surprised how inhibited college kids are when they think they’re around people who are just like them. Which is college. Drunk college girls reciting their escapades. Stoned 18 year olds talking about dreams they had I did this once in college and it was a hoot! (I’ve never used hoot like that before, and I don’t think I ever will again) (Verified!)
The zoo – Awesome if the girl is an animal lover or if you just want to walk and have something to point at and make fun of because it is uglier (or cuter) than you are. REMEMBER! Some places are smelly so be prepared to skip them or convince her to tough it out.
Japanese steak house – If you’re going to do dinner, DO IT FUN! At my favorite, Ziki in Gaithersburg, MD they have a guy that squirt water on you from this little figurine that shoots it from his peepee! LOL! Hilarious!
Museums – This is a pretty cool and great in a city like DC where I reside. The choices are plentiful but it can make for awkward times. Try to avoid them by not going to museums on extremely sensitive issues like the Holocaust museum. THere is plenty of good history in these types of museums but it is not necessarily a first day location.